Stop Being a Control Freak & Delegate

By Kimberley Borgens

Are you guilty of being a control freak? Do you find yourself saying things like “I can do it faster,” “no one does it as well as me,” or “my way is the only way to get it done?” If so, you’re not alone. As women entrepreneurs, we often feel the need to control everything, from the minor details to the big picture. We want to know that everything is done perfectly, on time, and in a way that aligns with our vision.

But let’s face it – being a control freak is exhausting, and it can hinder our success in the long run. That’s why it’s time to stop being a control freak and start delegating effectively. Today, I will show you just how damaging grasping to control can be and why effective delegation is the way to go. So, if you’re ready to let go and take your business to the next level, read on!

The Benefits of Delegation

Let’s be real: we all have a lot on our plates. We’re managing projects, meeting with clients, networking, and trying to find time for our personal lives. It’s no wonder that we sometimes feel overwhelmed and overworked! That’s where delegation comes in.

Delegation is the act of assigning tasks and responsibilities to other people to help ease your load. When done correctly, it can have tons of benefits for both you and your business. Here are just a few:

Increased productivity

Delegating tasks to others frees up your time to focus on more important things, such as strategic planning, business development, or self-care. It also allows your team members to use their skills and expertise to contribute to the success of the business.

Improved time management

By delegating tasks, you can better manage your time and avoid burnout. You can prioritize the most important tasks and delegate the rest to others on your team.

Development of team members

Delegating tasks can help your team members learn new skills, gain experience, and grow professionally. This can lead to a more engaged and motivated team.

Better decision-making

Delegation can lead to better decision-making by involving multiple perspectives and ideas. When you delegate tasks, you can tap into the strengths and skills of your team members, leading to better outcomes.

In short, delegating effectively can help you and your team work smarter, not harder. So, the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, consider delegating some tasks to others on your team. It might just be the boost your business needs.

The Costs of Control

Ladies, I know we often feel the pressure to be in control of everything. We want to know that everything is done right and according to our standards. But the truth is, being a control freak can have some serious costs. Here are just a few:

Increased stress and burnout

Trying to control everything can be exhausting and lead to stress and burnout. When you’re constantly micromanaging, you’re not only wearing yourself out but also your team members.

Stifling team members’ growth

When you’re a control freak, you’re not allowing your team members to learn and grow. You’re doing everything yourself and not allowing them to take on new tasks and develop their skills.

Missed opportunities for innovation and collaboration

Being a control freak can also limit your ability to collaborate with others and explore new ideas. You may not be open to different perspectives and approaches that can lead to innovation and growth when you’re always in charge.

Slow progress

When you’re trying to control everything, progress can slow down. You may spend too much time on small details instead of focusing on the big picture. This can lead to missed deadlines and lost opportunities.

Being a control freak can have some serious costs, both for you and your team members. So, the next time you feel the need to be in control of everything, take a step back and think about the costs. Is it worth it? Can you delegate some tasks to others and lighten the load? It might just be the best decision you make for your business.

Identifying Your Inner Control Freak

Now that we’ve talked about the benefits of delegating effectively and the costs of control, it’s time to dig a little deeper and explore why we become control freaks in the first place. Here are some common reasons:

Fear of failure

If we’re honest, many of us are often driven by a fear of failure. We can’t stand the thought of something not going right, so we take on too much trying to stay ahead of the results.

Lack of trust

Trust is a crucial component of any successful team. However, when we don’t trust our team members to do the job well, we become control freaks and try to do everything ourselves.


Many women entrepreneurs are perfectionists by nature. We want everything to be flawless, which can lead to micromanaging and control freak tendencies.

Need for control

Let’s face it, being an entrepreneur can be scary and uncertain. As a result, we may feel the need to control everything in our business to feel safe and secure.

Lack of delegation skills

Finally, some women entrepreneurs may become control freaks simply because they don’t know how to delegate effectively. They may be unsure of how to assign tasks or hesitant to give up control.

If any of these reasons resonate with you, don’t worry. Recognizing the reasons behind your control freak tendencies is the first step to overcoming them. In the next section, we’ll explore how to delegate effectively!

How to Delegate Effectively

Now that we’ve identified the reasons behind our control freak tendencies, it’s time to learn how to delegate! Here are some tips to help you let go of control and empower your team:

Identify what to delegate

The first step to effective delegation is identifying what you can get off your plate. Look for time-consuming or repetitive tasks while considering your team members’ strengths.

Set clear expectations

When delegating tasks, it’s crucial to set clear expectations. Make sure your team members understand what’s expected of them and the timeline for completion.

Trust your team members

Trust is essential when delegating tasks. Trust that your team members have the skills and knowledge to do the job right. Remember, you hired them for a reason!

Communicate effectively

Effective communication is vital to successful delegation. Make sure you’re available to answer questions and provide guidance as needed.

Provide feedback

When tasks are completed, provide feedback to your team members. Let them know what they did well and where they can improve. This will help them grow and develop their skills.

Let go of perfectionism

As women entrepreneurs, we often strive for perfection. But the truth is, perfection is impossible. Learn to let go of your need for everything to be perfect and trust that your team members will do a great job.

By delegating effectively, you’ll lighten your load and empower your team members to take on new tasks and grow in their roles. So, the next time you feel the urge to control everything, remember these tips and let go!

Overcoming Control Freak Tendencies

Now let’s get down to it. We need to know exactly what is holding us back and talk about overcoming our control freak tendencies. Here are some barriers you may face when trying to let go of control:


Sometimes, we feel like no one can do a task as well as we can. This may be true to some extent, but it can also be a form of overprotectiveness. Remember, your team members are there to support you and help you achieve your goals.


When we’re used to being in control, it can be hard to let go and allow others to take charge. Micromanagement is a common sign of control freak tendencies. However, it can actually do more harm than good. Instead, try to trust in your team members and allow them to take ownership of their tasks.

Lack of communication

Communication is critical when it comes to delegation. If you struggle to share your needs and expectations effectively, it can be hard to let go of control. Make sure to communicate clearly and regularly with your team members so that everyone is on the same page.


Insecurity can lead to control freak tendencies, as we may feel like we need to be in control in order to prove ourselves. However, this mindset can be damaging and limit our potential for growth. Instead, try to focus on your strengths and trust in your team members to handle the rest.

Fear of change

Sometimes, we hold onto control simply because we’re afraid of change. However, change is a natural part of growth, and we need to embrace it. By allowing others to take on new tasks and responsibilities, you can create a more dynamic and innovative work environment.

Overcoming control freak tendencies requires a willingness to let go and trust in your team members. It may not be easy at first, but you can learn to delegate effectively and even empower your team with practice. Remember, the more you involve others, the more time you’ll have to focus on growing your business and achieving your goals. So, take a deep breath, let go, and watch your business thrive!

Breaking Free From Control

Here’s the truth you need to hear today: holding onto control can limit your potential for growth and success. By learning to delegate effectively, you can free up more time, empower your team members, and achieve your goals.

So, the next time you feel the urge to control everything, take a step back and consider what tasks you can delegate. Trust in your team members, communicate effectively, and let go of perfectionism. With practice, you’ll learn to delegate effectively and easily achieve your goals.

It’s time to stop being a control freak and start delegating. Your business (and your sanity) will thank you!

Kimberley Borgens

About the author

Kimberley Borgens was married at 18, a mother at 19, and divorced at 20, she has journeyed from being a single mom on welfare to recognizing her strengths, fighting for what she believes in, and successfully building 5 thriving businesses with hundreds of employees and million-dollar budgets. Kimberley is a speaker, business mentor, and coaches her clients to transform their small business into a thriving business. Kimberley is living her own legacy as she inspires and motivates women to be fearless, become more like a CEO of their business and life, and enjoy the freedom they've dreamed of. She knows what it's like to start from nothing and build a strong solid business and she can help you too.

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